Adventure noun \əd-venˈchər\
1. An exciting experience
That’s the first thing that the Chambers dictionary on my iPhone tells me about adventure.
It’s easy to think of an adventure as something that takes a lot of time, money and effort, as something that requires an exotic location. It doesn’t. If you can’t find an adventure on your doorstep you’re just not trying hard enough – all you need is something crazy to do and preferably someone crazy to do it with.
The best adventures I’ve ever had are ones that have involved other people. Those partners in crime have been the people that I’ve cared about most: bouncing down a train station full of beans, a surprise birthday meal, sitting in the sun halfway up a mountain; these are the adventures that mean something to me. Those are the moments I look back on.
After all, it’s moments we remember, and not just the big ones. It’s the jumping out of a plane and the riding a horse through the forests of Sweden, but it’s also the running away from someone you don’t like(quite literally), it’s the pillow fights and the water pistols and that trip to the zoo and a million other adventures that make life worthwhile. Stop waiting for big moments that may never come, start loving the small moments that can happen every day.
These are adventures that don’t need some meticulous plan, a healthy bank balance or the love of your life. These are the adventures that you miss when you’re too busy concentrating on what the future holds. They’re what you pass up when you are dwelling on the past. They’re the remarkable incidents that happen when you weren’t looking, and maybe it’s time to start looking for yourself.
Stop reading crappy blogs and the ramblings of crazy people; stop wasting your time on Facebook; stop checking your phone for text messages. But more than that, stop blaming everything but yourself for your boring unfulfilling life. The problem is not with the city you live in, it’s not with your job, what you study or the monotony of day-to-day living. The problem is not with the unfulfilling relationships you have with people or the hobbies that you can’t let go of. It’s not the cards you’ve been dealt, or even what you do with them. The problem is you. So change the problem, draw new cards, get your lazy ass out there and have yourself an adventure.
Before you let anyone hold you back, kill your heroes, kill those people you look up to or whose opinion you respect. Not literally, unless of course you have a good reason and think you can get away with it, but metaphorically at least. Seriously, fuck those people who tell you what you can and can’t do (again, metaphorically not literally – unless they’re cute). They’ll always choose the safe course for you, because they don’t want you to get hurt, and with adventure comes risk.
The truth is most people have a tendency to play it safe. They’ll look adventure in the eye, smile and look away. They keep it at arm’s length, near enough to think, if this doesn’t work out then there’s an adventure out there waiting for me. Before you know it you’re stuck in the same dirty old town you’ve always been stuck in and adventure has wandered off without you. There needs to be more taking adventure by the hand, giving it a great big kiss and then running away with it into the sunset.
Take risks, find your own adventures and be happy while you’re living, for you’re a long time dead.
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